What is the Gap and the Gain?

As you scroll through the Instagram cat videos and posts from your favorite influencers, there’s one type of content that always grabs your attention.

The outrageous, jealousy-inducing photos and reels of people you know IRL.

And we’re not talking about your sister’s new puppy. (He’s a total cutie, and you will be sneaking him treats soon.)

No, we mean the photos of your friend Julie’s shiny new truck, sitting on a gorgeous, stone-paved driveway, near perfectly-landscaped flower beds. 

And when did she get new window treatments installed?!

It seems we’re not trying to keep up with the neighbors anymore. Social media has us comparing all aspects of our lives with anyone we can possibly follow online.

And it’s driving us crazy.

It’s not that we want to trade in our reliable sedan and upgrade to a new, high-end pickup that’s going to make our DIY projects so much easier…

Ok, maybe just a little.

But we think we’re above this kind of behavior. And we spend hours working on our goals to prove that we’re just as accomplished as Julie.

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Recently, your favorite book review trio (Megan, Stefani, and Austin) read Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy’s transformative book, “The Gap and the Gain”.

It showed us exactly how we obsess over other people’s ideals of success instead of our own. Why we are never satisfied when we finally get something we want. And how we can reframe the mistakes of our past to be less hurtful. 

There’s a ton of wisdom packed into this powerful little book. 

You’ll learn how to:

1. Focus on the ‘gain’ instead of the ‘gap’
2. View everyday mishaps through a more positive lens
3. Appreciate your past struggles instead of feeling embarrassed or disappointed
4. Embrace negative feedback instead of running from it
5. Overcome fear to get spectacular results

Our favorite quote didn’t come from the book, though. Austin brilliantly summarized one of the key points by saying, “Ideals are for motivation, not measurement”.

Find out what he’s talking about in our latest podcast, and make sure to grab a copy of this outstanding gem of a book when you’re all done listening!

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